The Rice Purity Test for Couples: How to Take It Together
Taking the purity test with your partner can be hilarious, revealing and surprisingly bonding, if you do it right. Here's how to make it a fun date-night activity.
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Comparing purity scores with your partner is one of the most popular ways people use the test, and one of the trickiest. Done well, it's a night of laughter and stories. Done carelessly, it can lead to awkward silences or arguments. This guide shows you how to keep it fun.
Two ways to play
Option 1: The Couples Purity Test
Our Couples Purity Test is designed to be answered together, as a pair. Instead of asking about your individual pasts, it asks about experiences you've shared: saying "I love you", meeting the parents, your first big fight, a road trip, a kiss at midnight on New Year's Eve and more.
This is the safest, most bonding option, because it celebrates your relationship's story rather than comparing individual histories.
Option 2: Classic test, then compare
The other approach is for each of you to take the classic Rice Purity Test separately, then share your scores. This can be fun, but it involves your histories before you met, so it needs a bit more care.
Ground rules before you start
If you're comparing individual scores, agree on these first:
- Only share the number. Nobody has to reveal individual answers unless they want to.
- No interrogations. "Wait, which ones did you check?" is off-limits unless it's offered.
- No judgment. Your partner's past happened before you, and a number doesn't change who they are today.
- You can skip it. If either of you isn't comfortable, choose the Couples test instead.
What if your scores are very different?
This is the big one. Score gaps of 30 or 40 points are common, and they can feel significant in the moment. A few things to remember:
- Scores measure quantity, not meaning. A partner's lower score doesn't mean they value the relationship less.
- Age matters most. If one of you is older, a lower score is expected.
- Different paths are normal. People grow up in different cultures, families and friend groups.
- The past is the past. What matters is the relationship you're building now.
If a score difference does bring up genuine insecurity, that's worth talking about calmly, perhaps on another day, rather than in the middle of a game.
Making it a great date night
- Set the scene. Snacks, drinks and a cozy couch make all the difference.
- Read the Couples test questions out loud. Debating "does that count?" is half the fun.
- Tell the stories. For every shared item you check, share your favorite memory of it.
- Make a "to-do" list. Look at the unchecked items. Which ones would you like to do together? A road trip? Cooking a fancy dinner? Kissing in the rain?
Conversation starters from the Couples test
Use these prompts to go beyond the checkbox:
- What was going through your mind the first time we said "I love you"?
- What's the best trip we've taken, and where should we go next?
- What was our silliest fight about?
- Which tradition of ours do you love the most?
- What's one "first" you want us to have this year?
Retake it every year
One of the sweetest uses of the Couples test is to retake it on your anniversary. Watching your couple score drop year after year is a fun reminder of everything you've experienced together.
Frequently asked questions
Should couples share their Rice Purity scores?
Only if both partners want to. The Couples version is a great alternative because it's about your shared experiences.
Is it a red flag if my partner's score is low?
No. A score reflects past experiences, not character, commitment or trustworthiness.
Can we take the Couples Purity Test if we just started dating?
Yes. You'll have a high score, and it's a fun way to learn about each other's expectations.
Do we take the Couples test on one phone or two?
One. Answer together as a couple.
Ready, set, date night
Grab your partner and take the Couples Purity Test. Then come back next year and see how far you've come.
